It is almost impossible not to fall in love
while in Indonesia. So, it
happens on a daily basis that foreign tourists feel their
Also on a daily basis Indonesian women and men realize they are falling in love with a bule (foreigner) or turis (tourist). It is not something most of them have been waiting for. After all, bule and turis have some negative connotations. Bule are strange, rude and usually non-believers (non Muslims). Yet, bule are also looked up to.
In most cases your Indonesian love will not culminate in a commitment, but sometimes it happens and you decide to go all the way. 'All the way' does involve sunshine and roses, and also lots of often unsuspected and unexpected rules, regulations and habits that may threaten to put a lid on your happiness.
So, how to beat the odds and bring your Indonesian spouse home with you?Read about Language, Culture, Religion, Preparations, The Ceremony, Immigration Issues, Tax, Local Registration, Citizenship and Children, Getting Married in Bali
Indonesia has its wedding seasons that are largely based on the Muslim, Hindu or Chinese calendar. For mixed couples an exception can always be made.
Rather than anything else an Indonesian wedding is a highly formal occasion that leaves no room for fun, songs, or informal speeches infused with humor, as in Western cultures.
The bride and groom are considered to be king and queen for one day. Their role is therefore largely a passive one. Most of the time they are seated on a rented throne and going through the required moves and steps, while parents, essential relatives, neighbors, master of ceremony and make-up experts are fussing about, ensuring the ceremony runs without a glitch or a hitch.
Modern trends are easily blended with tradition. Western style weddings are as common as a traditional Javanese wedding ceremony.
Picture taking has become so important that a visit to a studio will probably be inevitable. During the wedding reception formal photos with different set-ups of relatives, neigbors, friends and co-workers are indispensable.
A video recording of the wedding will undoubtedly be as valuable as the wedding album.
Although freedom of religion is anchored within the Constitution, in everyday life the translation of that right is a bit different. Only in very rare cases will your partner and the wider group of relatives be willing to tolerate two religions within one household.If the foreigner is not prepared to convert to the Indonesian fiance(e)'s religion, the wedding and the relationship are certain to be called off. And if you and your fiance(e) decide to continue it, you must be prepared to face lots of problems with your inlaws for years to come.
A traditional wedding is marked by several key stages, sometimes requiring months to perform. For a marriage of mixed race couples, one living overseas, concessions will likely be made by sqeezing the several stages into a week or several days.
The most essential part of te wedding
will be the religious ceremony, either
in the mosque or in church. The civil procedure is usually woven into
Both husband and wife will receive a copy of the wedding booklet, in different colors that spell out the marriage arrangement and the consequences of divorce.
You are a foreign male,
marrying an Indonesian woman.
You are expected to return to your home country, with your wife. Foreign husbands cannot settle in Indonesia permanently and apply for Indonesian citizenship.
Initially the maximum stay in Indonesia is limited to one year, unless of course as a foreigner you already work and live in Indonesia and are in possession of the required visa.
If you intend to stay in Indonesia for a period longer than one month do arrange your visa beforehand instead of coming to Indonesia on a tourist visa!
A new bill has been passed allowing
foreign spouses of mixed marriages to
obtain a residence permit.
You are a foreign female
marrying an Indonesian man.
In line with Indonesian law you retain your nationality, and you may stay in Indonesia and apply for Indonesian citizenship.
If you decide to migrate to your country of citizenship your Indonesian husband will need to complete all immigration procedures for entry to your home country.
It is strongly recommended to have your Indonesian marriage registered in your home country.
Children born during your marriage will automatically obtain dual citizenship until the age of 18.
The best period to schedule your wedding is during the dry season (usually starting in May and ending around October).
Wedding ceremonies vary from a ceremony on the beach, a yacht, a traditional Balinese wedding, wedding with elephants, a jungle wedding. You name it!
Many local wedding planners are ready to make a success of the most beautiful day of your life. They will take care of your every need and, very importantly, also assist with the complicated and time consuming legal requirements (see under Preparations, above).